Do you want to know what’s keeping you from getting back together with your ex?
Chances are it is one of the top 3 reasons couples do not get back together.
1. Fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of being hurt. Fear of what your ex will say. Fear of putting yourself out there “on the line.” Fear of the unknown — what COULD happen!
It’s enough to hinder you to the point of inaction.
But the fact remains, if you don’t “put yourself out there” sometimes, you won’t get anywhere. No risk, no reward.
Don’t be afraid. As long as you avoid the mistakes from the Biggest Breakup Mistakes series, only good things can happen!
2. Pride. This runs neck and neck with fear as a top reason couples are unable to get back together.
Let’s face it, at the end of a relationship, things are said and done which are often regrettable.
Our feelings are hurt. Our egos are damaged. And in order to recover and cope with the breakup, we cling to our pride.
Add to that our basic human desire to be “right.”
We desperately want to believe that we are in the right, and our ex is in the wrong.
It’s our way of telling ourselves that we are ok. There’s nothing wrong with this. We are ok and it’s good that we think well of ourselves during tough times like this.
But often our pride prevents us from moving int he right direction with our ex’s.
It prevents us from saying how we REALLY feel. Or it prevents us from really tackling the core reason why you broke up in the first place.
Frankly, we would be best served by humbling ourselves and opening ourselves up to our special someone. If your ex is indeed your true love, you should be able to demonstrate humility, let go of your pride and be completely open and honest.
If you are can overcome your pride, then chances are you can overlook past mistakes and forgive your ex. Or maybe it will give you the strength to ask for forgiveness yourself if it is needed. Or it will help you to tackle the real issues that are keeping you apart.
3. Inability to overcome obstacles.
Many times we allow an obstacle to get in the way of reconciling. It’s just too easy to say “oh well, I tried.” I know because I’ve done it!
But in the end, there’s a solution for every obstacle. That’s right, every one of them.
Despite what the gurus would have you believe, there are no solutions that work 100% of the time, simply because we all possess free will to do as we please. If anyone tells you otherwise, run (don’t walk) in the other direction!
That said, there are things we can do to overcome all obstacles. For every situation, there is a solution.
Let me say that again….
For every situation, there is a solution.
I have seen miracles in my own relationships, and now I have seen it play out successfully for thousands around the world who have learned the do’s and dont’s from this newsletter and Win Back Love.
Please give it a try now and see for yourself – win back love
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Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
How to turn a female friend into your lover friend in 9 easy steps
You've fallen in love, and you've fallen hard. She is the first thing you think of in the morning and your last thought at night. Just the sound of her name is enough to make you smile, and her voice is like music.
Okay, maybe I'm getting a little carried away. Suffice it to say that you've got a big thing for her, and you two would be perfect together. There's only one thing stopping you...
She just wants to be friends.
You've passed what some would call the "point of no return." You want to be more than friends, but she sees you as more of a brother than a lover. The thought alone hurts, but take heart, because you're not the only guy to be found in this situation.
I won't lie: Turning a friend into a girlfriend is somewhat of a challenge. She's gotten to know you, and views you in a certain light. In order to become romantic, you have to change the way she sees you. In other words, you have to tap into the emotional side of her brain that screams, "I want him!"
The following are things you can do to make that happen. These methods aren't fool proof, but if you want to take your friendship to the next level, they're your only shot.
Here's what you should do, from start to finish:
1. Don't pour your heart out to her.
Most guys who have feelings for a friend are too hesitant to express their feelings, so odds are you haven't done so yet. If you do pour your heart out to her, you'll immediately make the dynamics of your relationship awkward. She'll start acting weird, won't call you as much, and create a distance. In short, just don't go there.
So what do you do if you've already worn your heart on your sleeve? Work your hardest at acting casual, as though you really only have friendly feelings towards her. Don't call as much, don't give her longing stares, and remain laid back. You should also focus on the following two tips.
2. Stop letting her walk all over you.
When a guy has a crush on his friend, he'll do anything to please her. He generally acts out the role of a boyfriend by taking her out, paying her way, and listening to her on the phone, with one major difference...he gets nothing out of it. Things get really bad when she uses you to discuss her "boy problems." It doesn't feel fair, because it isn't.
It's time for you to draw the line, but do so in a nice way. When she calls, don't pick up, and call her back in a few hours. If she wants to go out, tell her you've got other plans. In fact, it's not a bad idea to let her know in advance that you'll be busy over the next couple of months. Suddenly, you've gone from being taken for granted to being a novelty.
A lot of guys have trouble initiating this step. They feel they're being selfish or cruel, but I beg to differ. First, women aren't that blind. She probably knows you have certain affections for her, yet she continues to use you for personal means. To me, that sounds cruel. Second, you must understand that women are drawn to men who have busy lifestyles. If she has to work for your attention, she'll appreciate it all the more once she has it.
3. Date around.
The heart always wants what it cannot have, and this is certainly true for women. With that being said, get out there and flirt! Allow her to see you chatting with other females, and if a girl is attractive to you, ask her out. Just because your friend is all you ever think of does not mean you shouldn't experience other women.
As soon as she sees you giving your affection to girls other than her, she'll notice. Let her witness your sexual appeal to the opposite sex, and know that it's triggering her mind to see you in a new light. She may or may not come around and act jealous, but believe me...she is.
4. Touch her.
Once you've gotten a life and shown her your desirability to other women, it's time to start injecting some physical contact into your relationship.
I know you're dying to kiss her, but hold off on the heavy stuff for now. Remember that you're still just her friend, and touch her accordingly. Give her a hug, play-punch her, or place your hand on the small of her back while walking through a crowd. Make each move appear as though you're barely thinking about it.
It's essential to touch her if you ever want a romance with her. Consider it a baby step towards intimacy. She needs to grow used to the idea of your hands on her.
5. Make her meet your standards.
For years, you've agreed with everything she's said. You've laughed at her jokes, and gone along with her opinions for the sake of impressing her. Take that idea, and switch it around now.
Women are naturally drawn to men who are confident and in charge. Know your own opinions and values, and don't back down from them. When you stand your ground on any topic, you're showing everyone around you that you're secure in your own skin. Don't back down, even if it means pleasing another person.
When it comes to your friend, let her know what you're looking for in a potential mate. Elaborate by commenting on how difficult it is to find those qualities you seek. She'll undoubtedly throw in her two cents, revealing what she likes in a guy, and the conversation will unfold from there.
As you listen, you'll probably hear her unconsciously qualify herself for you. All of the traits you listed will suddenly be what she has to offer. While she may not realize it at the time, the seed has been planted in her mind, and she'll likely think about how good you two are for each other.
6. Let's talk about sex.
The main reason why she just wants to be friends is that she doesn't see you sexually. You need to change this, and a surefire way to do so is to have discussions about sex.
Don't be a pig about it, but fit it in where you can. Sexual jokes or innocent flirting usually go over well. You can also take things to the next level by telling her about a bad sexual experience you recently had. Not only does this make you a potential lover in her eyes, but it also clues her into the fact that other women are attracted to you.
She used to think of you like a brother, but she wouldn't talk about sex with her brother, right? That's the whole idea.
7. More about Sex.
I want to elaborate more on talking with your friend about a sexual experience.
Since you and this girl are "just friends," you should feel free to tell her about your sexual escapades. Pick one girl in particular, and tell your friend how amazing the sex was. Continue to say that you and this girl were friends before growing intimate, and that's why you think the sex was top-notch.
Your friend may nod her head, or not appear immediately intrigued, but she is. She's seeing you in a whole new light. Not only can you be a friend, but you can also be a lover...and a great one at that!
8. Create sexual tension.
The problem you're having now with your friend is that there's no mystery. She knows that she can have you if she wants you. There's not a question in her mind about it.
After you've made her see you in a sexual light, you have to pull back. It's all about give and take. Call and ask her to go out one night, and then disappear for a few days. Shower her with attention, and then give it away to other women.
Give her a taste of what it's like to be intimate with you, and make her want more.
Since you've made it this far in your plan, you can now become more intense with your flirting. Don't overdo it though; just flatter her. You can mix a sexual innuendo with a joke. For instance, compliment her on her appearance, and tell her she's "gonna be in trouble if you stare at her too long."
This is an innocent way of indicating your attraction to her, but at the same time, you're not pining over her either.
9. Go for it.
By this point, you've done all you can do to change the way she views you. You've made yourself a novelty, touched her, flirted with other women, and more. So what's next?
It's time to go for it.
Try hugging her, but stop and gaze into her eyes. If she holds your gaze, give her a kiss. If she doesn't hold your gaze, you might want to hold off a little longer, or give in all together.
Don't think about the kiss...just do it. If you think about it too long, you'll either chicken our, or act too nervous in the process. Whatever happens afterward will unfold naturally. At some point, however, you've got to see if your hard work was worth it.
Okay, maybe I'm getting a little carried away. Suffice it to say that you've got a big thing for her, and you two would be perfect together. There's only one thing stopping you...
She just wants to be friends.
You've passed what some would call the "point of no return." You want to be more than friends, but she sees you as more of a brother than a lover. The thought alone hurts, but take heart, because you're not the only guy to be found in this situation.
I won't lie: Turning a friend into a girlfriend is somewhat of a challenge. She's gotten to know you, and views you in a certain light. In order to become romantic, you have to change the way she sees you. In other words, you have to tap into the emotional side of her brain that screams, "I want him!"
The following are things you can do to make that happen. These methods aren't fool proof, but if you want to take your friendship to the next level, they're your only shot.
Here's what you should do, from start to finish:
1. Don't pour your heart out to her.
Most guys who have feelings for a friend are too hesitant to express their feelings, so odds are you haven't done so yet. If you do pour your heart out to her, you'll immediately make the dynamics of your relationship awkward. She'll start acting weird, won't call you as much, and create a distance. In short, just don't go there.
So what do you do if you've already worn your heart on your sleeve? Work your hardest at acting casual, as though you really only have friendly feelings towards her. Don't call as much, don't give her longing stares, and remain laid back. You should also focus on the following two tips.
2. Stop letting her walk all over you.
When a guy has a crush on his friend, he'll do anything to please her. He generally acts out the role of a boyfriend by taking her out, paying her way, and listening to her on the phone, with one major difference...he gets nothing out of it. Things get really bad when she uses you to discuss her "boy problems." It doesn't feel fair, because it isn't.
It's time for you to draw the line, but do so in a nice way. When she calls, don't pick up, and call her back in a few hours. If she wants to go out, tell her you've got other plans. In fact, it's not a bad idea to let her know in advance that you'll be busy over the next couple of months. Suddenly, you've gone from being taken for granted to being a novelty.
A lot of guys have trouble initiating this step. They feel they're being selfish or cruel, but I beg to differ. First, women aren't that blind. She probably knows you have certain affections for her, yet she continues to use you for personal means. To me, that sounds cruel. Second, you must understand that women are drawn to men who have busy lifestyles. If she has to work for your attention, she'll appreciate it all the more once she has it.
3. Date around.
The heart always wants what it cannot have, and this is certainly true for women. With that being said, get out there and flirt! Allow her to see you chatting with other females, and if a girl is attractive to you, ask her out. Just because your friend is all you ever think of does not mean you shouldn't experience other women.
As soon as she sees you giving your affection to girls other than her, she'll notice. Let her witness your sexual appeal to the opposite sex, and know that it's triggering her mind to see you in a new light. She may or may not come around and act jealous, but believe me...she is.
4. Touch her.
Once you've gotten a life and shown her your desirability to other women, it's time to start injecting some physical contact into your relationship.
I know you're dying to kiss her, but hold off on the heavy stuff for now. Remember that you're still just her friend, and touch her accordingly. Give her a hug, play-punch her, or place your hand on the small of her back while walking through a crowd. Make each move appear as though you're barely thinking about it.
It's essential to touch her if you ever want a romance with her. Consider it a baby step towards intimacy. She needs to grow used to the idea of your hands on her.
5. Make her meet your standards.
For years, you've agreed with everything she's said. You've laughed at her jokes, and gone along with her opinions for the sake of impressing her. Take that idea, and switch it around now.
Women are naturally drawn to men who are confident and in charge. Know your own opinions and values, and don't back down from them. When you stand your ground on any topic, you're showing everyone around you that you're secure in your own skin. Don't back down, even if it means pleasing another person.
When it comes to your friend, let her know what you're looking for in a potential mate. Elaborate by commenting on how difficult it is to find those qualities you seek. She'll undoubtedly throw in her two cents, revealing what she likes in a guy, and the conversation will unfold from there.
As you listen, you'll probably hear her unconsciously qualify herself for you. All of the traits you listed will suddenly be what she has to offer. While she may not realize it at the time, the seed has been planted in her mind, and she'll likely think about how good you two are for each other.
6. Let's talk about sex.
The main reason why she just wants to be friends is that she doesn't see you sexually. You need to change this, and a surefire way to do so is to have discussions about sex.
Don't be a pig about it, but fit it in where you can. Sexual jokes or innocent flirting usually go over well. You can also take things to the next level by telling her about a bad sexual experience you recently had. Not only does this make you a potential lover in her eyes, but it also clues her into the fact that other women are attracted to you.
She used to think of you like a brother, but she wouldn't talk about sex with her brother, right? That's the whole idea.
7. More about Sex.
I want to elaborate more on talking with your friend about a sexual experience.
Since you and this girl are "just friends," you should feel free to tell her about your sexual escapades. Pick one girl in particular, and tell your friend how amazing the sex was. Continue to say that you and this girl were friends before growing intimate, and that's why you think the sex was top-notch.
Your friend may nod her head, or not appear immediately intrigued, but she is. She's seeing you in a whole new light. Not only can you be a friend, but you can also be a lover...and a great one at that!
8. Create sexual tension.
The problem you're having now with your friend is that there's no mystery. She knows that she can have you if she wants you. There's not a question in her mind about it.
After you've made her see you in a sexual light, you have to pull back. It's all about give and take. Call and ask her to go out one night, and then disappear for a few days. Shower her with attention, and then give it away to other women.
Give her a taste of what it's like to be intimate with you, and make her want more.
Since you've made it this far in your plan, you can now become more intense with your flirting. Don't overdo it though; just flatter her. You can mix a sexual innuendo with a joke. For instance, compliment her on her appearance, and tell her she's "gonna be in trouble if you stare at her too long."
This is an innocent way of indicating your attraction to her, but at the same time, you're not pining over her either.
9. Go for it.
By this point, you've done all you can do to change the way she views you. You've made yourself a novelty, touched her, flirted with other women, and more. So what's next?
It's time to go for it.
Try hugging her, but stop and gaze into her eyes. If she holds your gaze, give her a kiss. If she doesn't hold your gaze, you might want to hold off a little longer, or give in all together.
Don't think about the kiss...just do it. If you think about it too long, you'll either chicken our, or act too nervous in the process. Whatever happens afterward will unfold naturally. At some point, however, you've got to see if your hard work was worth it.
Friday, September 17, 2010
how to make someone fall in love with you in three simple steps
There is no love potion or love spell guaranteed to give you true love or happy endings. However, there is something that comes quite close to it; and that is this article. This article will teach you how to make someone fall in love with you. There are no tricks here - just an honest to goodness guide to people and relationships.
Even if you don't have your eye on anybody specific right now, knowing how to make someone fall in love with you is important. It gives you a sense of empowerment and a boost in self-confidence that will reflect positively on your personal and professional life.
1) Know what makes that person tick.
Everybody has an idea of the perfect partner. You probably have your own list as well. Tall, handsome, dark-skinned, beautiful... The requirements are different for everybody. If you want to know how to make someone fall in love with you, you must first find out what is in that person's list.
Does he or she want someone who is into sports? Or someone who knows a lot about music? Is that person more attracted to blondes or brunettes?
Once you figure out what makes that special someone tick, try to become that person. If need be, dye your hair black (for shock value and just as long as it looks good on you) or sign up for those boat rafting activities (only as long as you know how to swim). Congratulations! You have just completed stage one of your plan.
2) Appeal to that person's subconscious.
Once you have caught that person's attention. It is now time to move on to stage two. Make sure their subconscious is aware of you at all times. You know how powerful and how suggestive the subconscious mind can be.
To take advantage of that fact, you need to always be hovering over their line of sight. That person has to have a glimpse of you everyday.
The beauty of this trick is that you don't even have to strike up a conversation. You can just walk past the person you like or walk where you know they will see you. Once that person's subconscious gets used to seeing you, you can bet they will be affected when you suddenly do not show up or do not make yourself visible for a day.
3) Go head to head with that person's conscious.
The final stage on how to make someone fall in love with you involves actually making contact with the person in question. There are a lot of easy ways to do this.
A smile is probably the best option. The next time you walk past their office and they look up at you, smile. Show off your pearly whites.
But don't stop and smile too long. Go on as if nothing has happened. Continue your duties or whatever it is you are supposed to be doing. It won't be long before that person comes up to you and strikes up a conversation with you.
Now that you know how to make someone fall in love with you, I trust that you'll use it in the most honorable way possible. Love helps bring out the best in people. Hopefully, this article has inspired you to look at yourself in a whole new light.
These tips are helpful; but there's no better way to captivate the opposite sex than to use persuasion techniques. check it out here.
Even if you don't have your eye on anybody specific right now, knowing how to make someone fall in love with you is important. It gives you a sense of empowerment and a boost in self-confidence that will reflect positively on your personal and professional life.
1) Know what makes that person tick.
Everybody has an idea of the perfect partner. You probably have your own list as well. Tall, handsome, dark-skinned, beautiful... The requirements are different for everybody. If you want to know how to make someone fall in love with you, you must first find out what is in that person's list.
Does he or she want someone who is into sports? Or someone who knows a lot about music? Is that person more attracted to blondes or brunettes?
Once you figure out what makes that special someone tick, try to become that person. If need be, dye your hair black (for shock value and just as long as it looks good on you) or sign up for those boat rafting activities (only as long as you know how to swim). Congratulations! You have just completed stage one of your plan.
2) Appeal to that person's subconscious.
Once you have caught that person's attention. It is now time to move on to stage two. Make sure their subconscious is aware of you at all times. You know how powerful and how suggestive the subconscious mind can be.
To take advantage of that fact, you need to always be hovering over their line of sight. That person has to have a glimpse of you everyday.
The beauty of this trick is that you don't even have to strike up a conversation. You can just walk past the person you like or walk where you know they will see you. Once that person's subconscious gets used to seeing you, you can bet they will be affected when you suddenly do not show up or do not make yourself visible for a day.
3) Go head to head with that person's conscious.
The final stage on how to make someone fall in love with you involves actually making contact with the person in question. There are a lot of easy ways to do this.
A smile is probably the best option. The next time you walk past their office and they look up at you, smile. Show off your pearly whites.
But don't stop and smile too long. Go on as if nothing has happened. Continue your duties or whatever it is you are supposed to be doing. It won't be long before that person comes up to you and strikes up a conversation with you.
Now that you know how to make someone fall in love with you, I trust that you'll use it in the most honorable way possible. Love helps bring out the best in people. Hopefully, this article has inspired you to look at yourself in a whole new light.
Monday, August 16, 2010
best tips on how to get your ex-lover back
If you're wondering how to get your lover back, it'll take some patience and a bit of a leap of faith. The relationship has already failed at least once by this point right? That means you don't have any guarantee it can be repaired and back together in each others arms. If you're going to try and reconnect with your ex, then you have to give yourself the best odds you can and not rely on luck, or empty promises. You need a proven method that works!
The only way you're going to salvage your relationship with your ex is by your own dedication and work. During a break up, it's very difficult to maintain your composure because our emotions get the best of us, right? This is a very tricky time that can have the greatest impact on your efforts when you're trying to get back together with someone that you've just broken up with. Usually, in the case of being the dumped one, you're the only one trying to get back together and make it work. That's why using methods that have been formulated and based on how to get your lover back is the best game plan for you. I'm going to cover some of these time tested methods for getting your ex back right here.
One word of advice however... Regardless of how great any technique may be, it is going to require a bit of time, patience, and most of all, honesty and forgiveness on your part to make them work. There are some cases that the entire process of getting your ex back can take a longer period of time then you expected. So make sure you're in this for the long haul, even in spite of the fact that most of these tips can get your lover back in a matter of days. Sometimes even the same day!
The only way you're going to salvage your relationship with your ex is by your own dedication and work. During a break up, it's very difficult to maintain your composure because our emotions get the best of us, right? This is a very tricky time that can have the greatest impact on your efforts when you're trying to get back together with someone that you've just broken up with. Usually, in the case of being the dumped one, you're the only one trying to get back together and make it work. That's why using methods that have been formulated and based on how to get your lover back is the best game plan for you. I'm going to cover some of these time tested methods for getting your ex back right here.
One word of advice however... Regardless of how great any technique may be, it is going to require a bit of time, patience, and most of all, honesty and forgiveness on your part to make them work. There are some cases that the entire process of getting your ex back can take a longer period of time then you expected. So make sure you're in this for the long haul, even in spite of the fact that most of these tips can get your lover back in a matter of days. Sometimes even the same day!
- First things first, you have to acknowledge the mistakes that you've made which caused this break up and be willing to change. Making changes is the very first thing that has to be done before you can learn how to get your lover back. You have to be honest with yourself on this part and be willing to accept the fact that there are certain changes that have to be made by you before you can get your ex back, or even consider it. Neither you, nor your partner is willing to change, then your relationship isn't going to stand a chance of enduring or even being reconciled. Think about that for a minute or two. If neither of you make changes... you will continue making the same mistakes leading down the path of breaking up over and over again.
- Secondly, consider the fact that you're willing to make changes and you are able to get your lover back. Think of this as a new beginning or a fresh start. That means forgetting the past and forgiving any and all transgressions. If you are holding onto any grudges or resentments, it will ruin your chances of a happy reunion. Harboring any bad feelings about past fights and wrongdoings will only make certain that the relationship is over before you even have a chance of mending it again.
- Third part of this process is like the second. You're courting again and starting over. This is the time you should be romancing your partner just like you're meeting someone for the first time. It has a very positive effect on mending relationships and gives you a chance to learn from each other, even though you have a history already and think you may know it all already.
- At this point you do not want to blow your chances of getting your ex back by making them think you're desperate, or by acting needy. This is a delicate stage of a relationship when you're learning how to get your lover back, because they're allowing you to have an open line of communication or even perhaps you're at the stage of dating again. You want to make absolutely certain to give them their space, and don't come across as if you're being clingy and needy. This will ruin all chances down the road and cause your ex to lace up their Nike's faster then you can say, "hit the road Jack!" You also don't want to give them the sense that you're just bidding your time with them until something better comes along. Do you need expert help on how to get your ex-lover back fast, then i have got the right thing for you. check it out here!
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